Learnings 04 -Sumblimating the Ego by Google Gemini

 मानसिक विज्ञान (Psychology) में ego को sublimate करने (अहंकार का उदात्तीकरण) का अर्थ है—अपने भीतर की किसी अस्वीकार्यता, दबी हुई ऊर्जा, या नकारात्मक भावना (जैसे गुस्सा, आक्रामकता या कामुकता) को बिना नुकसान पहुँचाए, किसी सकारात्मक, रचनात्मक और सामाजिक रूप से स्वीकार्य काम में बदल देना। [1, 2]

यह मनोविज्ञान के जनक सिग्मंड फ्रायड (Sigmund Freud) द्वारा बताई गई एक 'मैच्योर डिफ़ेंस मैकेनिज्म' (Mature Defense Mechanism) है। [1, 2]

यह कैसे काम करता है?

ईगो (Ego) की भूमिका: ईगो आपके भीतर की आदिम इच्छाओं (Id) और सामाजिक नियमों/नैतिकता (Superego) के बीच संतुलन बनाता है।
ऊर्जा का दिशा-बदलाव: जब आपको बहुत तेज गुस्सा आए या कोई अनुचित भावना उठे, तो ईगो उसे दबाने (Repress) के बजाय उस ऊर्जा को किसी उपयोगी कार्य में लगा देता है। [1, 2, 3, 4]

रोजमर्रा के उदाहरण

गुस्से को चैनल करना: यदि आपको बहुत अधिक गुस्सा आता है, तो आप उसे किसी से लड़ने में इस्तेमाल करने के बजाय जिम जाने, बॉक्सिंग करने, या घर की गहरी सफाई करने में लगा देते हैं।
तनाव या दुख को रचनात्मक बनाना: कोई व्यक्ति दिल टूटने या गहरे दुख को कविता लिखने, पेंटिंग करने, संगीत बनाने, या लेखन में बदल देता है।
सामाजिक कार्य: आक्रामक या बहुत ज्यादा ऊर्जावान प्रवृत्ति को खेल-कूद (Sports), नेतृत्व (Leadership), या समाज सेवा की ओर मोड़ दिया जाता है। [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

Learnings 03

1. Say, I am courageous

2. When there are negativities in life, add a lot of positive things to dilute negativity. 

Learnings 02

 1. Chanchal mann (mind) is the root cause of all sorrow. 

2. Learn to tame the 'mann (mind)' to live with 'Aman and Chain' 

3. When you act, find why you are doing this, is it due to some of your weaknesses like anger, jealousy, etc? If it's so, its not probably the best course. 

मन गोरख मन गोविन्दौ, मन ही औघड़ होइ।
जे मन राखैं जतनकरि, तौ आपैं करता सोइ॥१०॥

संदर्भ―मन को वश मे करने पर ही उच्चतम स्थान मिलता है।

भावार्थ―मन ही गोरखनाथ है मन हो पर ब्रह्म है और मन ही औघड़ नाथ है। मन ही इन पदों पर पहुँचाने वाला है। यदि मन प्रयत्न-पूर्वक वश में रखा जाये तो यही इस चराचर लोक का कर्ता, नियामक ब्रह्म बन सकता है

Learnings 01

 1. Approach someone by first knowing yourself. You will know others automatically. If you are honest then you will know if someone is corrupt. You are empathetic , then you know someone is cruel.

2.  Start doing now. 

3. Be  open to the  maximum pain that can be inflicted upon you. No pain , no gain. Be open for physical , mental and psychological pain. Then you will learn . It will open doors for innovative things in your life. 

4. Increase maximum knowledge. 

5. Learn to say NO without guilt. 

6. Always do what you think is right. This is the only way to be decisive. 

7. Relax sometimes and have fun. 

8. Write a good piece for yourself , not for others, money or something materialistic. 

9. There is one thing which you need to re learn (points mentioned in other blog entries)- Allow others to stay the way as they are. This will save you from being crackhead !! 

10. Pay attention to every thing you do. When you talk pay attention to other person; when you study , study with full attention; when you review, pay attention to each details. This will save relationship, career and finance. 

It is called Sati or mindfulness in Buddhist philosophy. 'Right attention' is one of the 8 fold paths that Buddha philosophy teach. 

Students should be taught to read slowly, sit with ambiguity and listen without interrupting. A mind that is concentrate can find peace and mind that is not, can never find peace. 

Madhyam marg

 According to Buddha Madhyam marg is the best course to take, if you are stumbled to decide on the spot.

Some of the Madhyam Marg decisions were :-

1. IIT Kanpur +metallurgical engineering 

2. Tata Steel + UPSC 

3. BPSC +MO

4. There + here 

5. 8+ Y

6. EGG + WHITE

7. 1 + 6

When mind is turtled : How to prevent it?

 I use term "turtled". Mind knows well when it goes turtled. There are some forces in the world, and around you that makes the mind turtled. The origin of these forces are- 

1. Negativity around you

2. Persistent bullying behaviour by someone. 

3. Adamant attitude 

4. Ego and arrogance 

Take little steps towards it. 

1. Think positive fore every few minutes . This stops recurring negative thoughts to linger on. For this faith is required. 

2. Resist bullying in small steps. Take positive steps from your side. Respond rather than over react. 

3. Say, but don't control. 

4. Lessen it by taking small steps. 

I cam across very beautiful article in Hindu over how mind can be prevented from being turtled.

Read it and then you know how turtling can be prevented and better be checked at its incipient stage.  

Few financial tips from video car buying hacks- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql6RkTxeb5k

1. To buy a car or bike, first go to different showrooms, test drive and then buy.

2. Do , what you want to do , what you want to make out of money .

3. Know how to handle the money. 

4. To buy a Ferrari, buy second hand, less driven, both in terms of distance and fuel. Mileage in short. Also find it if it has travelled within 3 years. 

5. Loan against financial assets. 

6. Pay using credit card, save costs. 

7. Financial engineering- know and learn where money comes and where money goes. Save money or costs. 

8. Don't make dumb financial decisions- analyse before making it. 

9. You can't afford to make dumb financial decisions.