Common negative traits

1. Comparing with others- possession, money, relationships.

2. Manipulating others and speaking lies

3. Stealing and engaging in corrupt behaviour

4. Having too much ego and pride in oneself.

5. Not respecting elders

6. Wasting time unnecessarily.

7. Not respecting one's emotions.

8. Not appreciating others.

9. Not working hard and believing world works their way

Post- Diwali Reflections

1. Think where you want to be 15 years now ? What you want to be ?

2. What you want to do with money?

3. Study

4. Be Serious

5. Take small decisions .

6. Connect. 

7. BE CALM AND THEN CONNECT. YOU WILL CONNECT WELL. 

8. Shed your ego to the level of koala and sloth

9.Make list of negative qualities - first understand and then find solution of them. 

Types of Violence

 1. Physical Violence : Inflicting body pain on others 

 a) physical torture 

b) sexual violence

2. Mental Violence : Inflicting mental pain by following activities

 a)excess desire of money, corrupt behavior of others

c) excess desire of leisurenes , laziness

d) excess desire of virtuous values , forcing it through mouth

e) trying to being good rather than focusing on self care. 

f) not speaking against evil. 

g)seeking too much comfort 

Lord Buddha gave concept of "Middle Path" circa 3000 years ago to solve above. 

Health advice

 1. SHG- "Moai" geneorisity

2. Ikkigai- Purpose

3. Light activity- like gardening -strenthening lower muscles 

4. Laughing and enjoying present- Not being angry

5. Sweet potato and medicinal fiber rich food.

6. Moving body and keeping mind busy. Walking more and taking stairs. 

7. Good Carbs- pasta and how they are made. 

8. Stress- You can resolve what you are given and not stress about what everything global. 

9. Stay with parents- Source of success. Care for elders.

10. Volunteering and community /social activity or building- Also involves physical activity and  brings happiness. 

11. Balanced diet- involves fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts.

12. Worry- What should I eat ? What should I drink? What should I put on? It takes strength. 

13. Faith- Visit more than once in a week to temple. 

14. Plan De VIda- Sense of purpose

15. Squash, beans, corn- three sisters equivalent to meat, eggs.

Learning 06 : Strategies to handle indisciplined ...

 

• Stay Calm and Neutral: Avoid shouting, losing your temper, or showing extreme frustration. Treat rules and consequences like a business transaction rather than an emotional battle. [1, 2, 3]
• Set Clear, Firm Limits: Establish unambiguous rules and state "no" firmly when necessary. Do not cave in to tantrums, whining, or arguments. [1, 2, 3]
• Stop Enabling and Make It Uncomfortable: Stop immediately fulfilling every demand or buying things to appease them. Make them work, save, or earn privileges (like phones, tech, or extra items) through household chores or good behavior. [1, 2, 3]
• Enforce Consistent Consequences: Follow through every single time a rule is broken. Use logical or action-based consequences (such as cleaning up or losing screen time) rather than harsh physical punishment or public shaming. [1, 2, 3]
• Separate the Child from the Behavior: Address the specific action (e.g., "That behavior is unacceptable") rather than labeling the child as a "brat," which can cause them to live up to the negative label. [1]
• Teach Emotional Regulation and Gratitude: Help them name their feelings, point out ungrateful or entitled remarks gently, and model patience and gratitude yourself. [1, 2]

Learnings 05

   One of the disciples of Krishna, the then Emperor of India, was driven from his kingdom by his enemies and had to take shelter with his queen, in a forest in the Himalayas, and there one day the queen asked him how it was that he, the most virtuous of men, should suffer so much misery. Yudhishthira answered, ‘Behold, my queen, the Himalayas, how grand and beautiful they are; I love them. They do not give me anything, but my nature is to love the grand, the beautiful, therefore I love them. Similarly, I love the Lord. He is the source of all beauty, of all sublimity. He is the only object to be loved; my nature is to love Him, and therefore I love. I do not pray for anything; I do not ask for anything. Let Him place me wherever He likes. I must love Him for love’s sake. I cannot trade in love.’

Learnings 04 -Sumblimating the Ego by Google Gemini

 मानसिक विज्ञान (Psychology) में ego को sublimate करने (अहंकार का उदात्तीकरण) का अर्थ है—अपने भीतर की किसी अस्वीकार्यता, दबी हुई ऊर्जा, या नकारात्मक भावना (जैसे गुस्सा, आक्रामकता या कामुकता) को बिना नुकसान पहुँचाए, किसी सकारात्मक, रचनात्मक और सामाजिक रूप से स्वीकार्य काम में बदल देना। [1, 2]

यह मनोविज्ञान के जनक सिग्मंड फ्रायड (Sigmund Freud) द्वारा बताई गई एक 'मैच्योर डिफ़ेंस मैकेनिज्म' (Mature Defense Mechanism) है। [1, 2]

यह कैसे काम करता है?

ईगो (Ego) की भूमिका: ईगो आपके भीतर की आदिम इच्छाओं (Id) और सामाजिक नियमों/नैतिकता (Superego) के बीच संतुलन बनाता है।
ऊर्जा का दिशा-बदलाव: जब आपको बहुत तेज गुस्सा आए या कोई अनुचित भावना उठे, तो ईगो उसे दबाने (Repress) के बजाय उस ऊर्जा को किसी उपयोगी कार्य में लगा देता है। [1, 2, 3, 4]

रोजमर्रा के उदाहरण

गुस्से को चैनल करना: यदि आपको बहुत अधिक गुस्सा आता है, तो आप उसे किसी से लड़ने में इस्तेमाल करने के बजाय जिम जाने, बॉक्सिंग करने, या घर की गहरी सफाई करने में लगा देते हैं।
तनाव या दुख को रचनात्मक बनाना: कोई व्यक्ति दिल टूटने या गहरे दुख को कविता लिखने, पेंटिंग करने, संगीत बनाने, या लेखन में बदल देता है।
सामाजिक कार्य: आक्रामक या बहुत ज्यादा ऊर्जावान प्रवृत्ति को खेल-कूद (Sports), नेतृत्व (Leadership), या समाज सेवा की ओर मोड़ दिया जाता है। [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]