Learnings 01

 1. Approach someone by first knowing yourself. You will know others automatically. If you are honest then you will know if someone is corrupt. You are empathetic , then you know someone is cruel.

2.  Start doing now. 

3. Be  open to the  maximum pain that can be inflicted upon you. No pain , no gain. Be open for physical , mental and psychological pain. Then you will learn . It will open doors for innovative things in your life. 

4. Increase maximum knowledge. 

5. Learn to say NO without guilt. 

6. Always do what you think is right. This is the only way to be decisive. 

7. Relax sometimes and have fun. 

8. Write a good piece for yourself , not for others, money or something materialistic. 

9. There is one thing which you need to re learn (points mentioned in other blog entries)- Allow others to stay the way as they are. This will save you from being crackhead !! 

10. Pay attention to every thing you do. When you talk pay attention to other person; when you study , study with full attention; when you review, pay attention to each details. This will save relationship, career and finance. 

It is called Sati or mindfulness in Buddhist philosophy. 'Right attention' is one of the 8 fold paths that Buddha philosophy teach. 

Students should be taught to read slowly, sit with ambiguity and listen without interrupting. A mind that is concentrate can find peace and mind that is not, can never find peace. 

Madhyam marg

 According to Buddha Madhyam marg is the best course to take, if you are stumbled to decide on the spot.

Some of the Madhyam Marg decisions were :-

1. IIT Kanpur +metallurgical engineering 

2. Tata Steel + UPSC 

3. BPSC +MO

4. There + here 

5. 8+ Y

6. EGG + WHITE

7. 1 + 6

When mind is turtled : How to prevent it?

 I use term "turtled". Mind knows well when it goes turtled. There are some forces in the world, and around you that makes the mind turtled. The origin of these forces are- 

1. Negativity around you

2. Persistent bullying behaviour by someone. 

3. Adamant attitude 

4. Ego and arrogance 

Take little steps towards it. 

1. Think positive fore every few minutes . This stops recurring negative thoughts to linger on. For this faith is required. 

2. Resist bullying in small steps. Take positive steps from your side. Respond rather than over react. 

3. Say, but don't control. 

4. Lessen it by taking small steps. 

I cam across very beautiful article in Hindu over how mind can be prevented from being turtled.

Read it and then you know how turtling can be prevented and better be checked at its incipient stage.  

Few financial tips from video car buying hacks- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql6RkTxeb5k

1. To buy a car or bike, first go to different showrooms, test drive and then buy.

2. Do , what you want to do , what you want to make out of money .

3. Know how to handle the money. 

4. To buy a Ferrari, buy second hand, less driven, both in terms of distance and fuel. Mileage in short. Also find it if it has travelled within 3 years. 

5. Loan against financial assets. 

6. Pay using credit card, save costs. 

7. Financial engineering- know and learn where money comes and where money goes. Save money or costs. 

8. Don't make dumb financial decisions- analyse before making it. 

9. You can't afford to make dumb financial decisions. 

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Bus Journey Diaries : 01 Being Human

I kept sitting beside a window pane on a bus, to ask myself, "These trees look very beautiful, passing by. A cool breeze was also blowing though. Its spring season to be more apt."

Although I feel the wind brushing my hair, I try to rewind the good old days with my friends at college campus. I feel , I have come so far in life, but not so far from my college days. 

Some of my friends were Adhyan , Rajiv and Rahul Kushreshta,  Ravi Yadav, I rarely talk to them now. But then, If I had asked them to take a bus ride, they would have taken it as a great refresher activity. I remember going to zoo on a Vikram auto where all my friends were loaded with our friends. 

We took the visit for fun. I dont remember much details, but I realise how we enjoyed those simple ways of passing time amidst pressure of all mid sems and end sems. And then we would return to the campus at IITK.

Some of my friends suggested that passing time in campus was more refreshing than going outside the campus. It felt more energetic and refreshing. On one occasion of college festival , we roamed on the streets just hooting around, when the lights were out. This scared a lot of people, who were out there seriously for a troll !

We did not bother, if it was making others feel intimidating, so much was our guts. With time, this lessened, and it has stopped at all now. Now we have become sensible citizens. We have started behaving more nuanced. However, those rough edges of doing insensible activities, are still there in some form. 

I still, park my bike on wrong side, fret over insensible stuff, undermine the less efficient work by my subordinate. Sometimes, while taking a journey on bus to my workplace, it feels, with the wind, brushing against my hair, its good to make mistakes, be a sensible human being with all the insensitivities, not understandable to others.