Negativity and Failure

 

Negativity and failure

Negativity breeds upon failures. Once a failure is experienced it creates a false impression in mind that a next failure waits for you in future. This can be a serious trap for anyone. It can create huge discomfort within oneself, anxiety and depression.

One very common example can be a student who is preparing for competitive examinations like IIT JEE entrance tests, NEET, IAS and so on. All such competitive exams give students multiple attempts to succeed, sometimes two, sometimes even more than four as in IAS. Despite this, anything can go wrong even for hardworking and intelligent students. One may fail to qualify even after repeated attempts. 

Then this creates a false impression in mind that you will again fail in subsequent attempts or any such future endeavours. Please avoid to fall in that trap. This fear of failure as is rightly said is gruesome phenomenon.

But it is easier said than done to be positive in such hard circumstances. Even a slight negative comment or provoke from parent, friends can fill you with anxiety. You feel helpless. 

What course of action then can be taken in such circumstances. Motivational articles, movies, videos on YouTube can be a temporary way to fill you with positive thoughts. But still how to be positive for a longer period of time? It can be a valid and potent question to ask. 

I remember I have had multiple such experiences in the past. In Kota, when I was preparing for IIT JEE I slipped by two hundred ranks in internal practice tests conducted by my institute Bansal classes. My batch was downgraded from X2 to X3. It created frustration inside me and sowed seeds of anxiety. But what I realised that I should work harder. 

And then I worked more on my subjects for three months straight. This gave me better results in next batch reshuffling tests and I was upgraded from X3 to X1. 

So, the key is to have self-belief in oneself and to take action for improving the situation. After you have done your role, you just need to wait for the results. They are not under your control, but the action always is. 

For even you face failure after you did your part for improving the situation, it is not bad. Take pride in yourself that you performed the action in improving it. Win or loss is not under our control. Recent incidences of suicides in Kota are alarming. Students must take note of the above mantra. 

Eventually this repeated exercise will nip anxiety, and discomfort in the bud itself when you face similar circumstances in future and gradually you will become stoic.